Index
of Book Reviews by
Shelly Marshall
Shelly is a reviewer for MentalHealthNet.org on MHN's unique
book review site Metapsychology.
They feature in-depth reviews of a wide range of books written
by reviewers from many backgrounds and perspectives.
Enjoy Shelly's unique and informed reviews below.
Review of The
History of Smiling
Shelly found the
book interesting but stuffy.
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Review of Taking
the Red Pill
Reviews of the
Matrix movie.
Book was fabulous, even if a little sexist.
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Review
of Metaphoria: Metaphor
and Guided
Metaphor for Psychotherapy and Healing
The
book was interesting but very academic.
$33.11
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| Review
of How
Families Still Matter<
A
Longitudinal Study of Youth in Two
Generations
by Vern L. Bengtson, Timothy J. Biblarz, Robert E. L. Roberts
$20
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Review
of The
Lucifer Principle
A
Scientific Expedition into the
Forces of History. You want to know why the Muslums are
acting the way they are? READ this. by
Howard K. Bloom
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Really Can Put Old
On Hold
Not a very
good book, run of the mill. Don't even consider buying it. You already
know to take vitamins and exercise. |
Review
of How
to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and
What to Do If You Can't
by
Neil I. Bernstein
Not bad, the book
(Ready, Aim, Inspire) by my brother and I is better though.
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from Amazon now. | Review
of Yes,
Your Teen Is Crazy!
Loving
Your Kid Without Losing
Your Mind
by
Michael J. Bradley
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Review
of A
User's Guide to the Brain:
Perception, Attention,
and the Four Theaters of the Brain
John J. Ratey
$10.47
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from Amazon Now | Review of
Spiritually
Healing the Indigo Children (and Adult Indigos, Too!)
The Practical Guide and Handbook
by Wayne Dosick and Ellen Kaufman
This
is my review but I do not recomend that you buy or read this book. I
think the authors have deluded themsleves. |
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www.day-by-day.org Provo, Utah—Are you sick of being told that
everything that goes wrong with your child is your fault? They get into
a fight and you are told you shouldn’t have bought that
Nintendo game;
they act up in class and you are told you weren’t firm
enough; they ditch
school and you are told you don’t eat three meals a week with
them? At
what point does accountability for behavior become the responsibility
of
the one who did it?
“Responsibility
is a great word,” says Shelly Marshall,
BS, CSAC, author of Young, Sober, & Free
published by Hazelden
of Center City, MN. “It holds within it the key to
answer the question:
Who is responsible? Ask yourself, who is able to respond? Who is
response-able?
The one able to respond to a situation, is the one who has to be
responsible.”
Parents can’t study for the child’s test, parents
can’t hand cuff their
kids so they don’t swing their fists, and Mom or Dad
doesn’t pour the beer
down the throat of their son or daughter!
ToughLove’s
co-founder, Phyllis York agrees in her book
Toughlove Solutions, “The issue of responsibility for
behavior is critical
to behavior change. The therapists who assume that kids’
parents are responsible
for their teenagers’ behavior are dramatically reducing the
chances that
the kids will change for the better.”
Ms. Marshall, a
recovering chemical dependent who cleaned
up at 21, contends that parents are held way too accountable for
influences
that are often beyond their control. Parenting becomes a sort of
retroactive
blame game whereby adolescent tribulations are referred to some expert
who probes into the family situation and eventually ends up with a
“reason”
why Jared or Janell went astray. Since no person is perfect, obviously
no parent can parent perfectly, and with enough probing the
“experts” will
always find something in the parenting that they can pin the
child’s behavior
on. Parents are accused of being neglectful or smothering, too harsh or
too lenient, not being understanding enough or being more of a friend
to
their child than a parent. In other words, whatever the expert can find
becomes the “reason” that the child is having
trouble.
“One of the
sad things about this, Marshall notes, “is
that it either forces the parents into undeserved guilt over what they
should have done or it fosters denial so they don’t have to
face what they
supposedly caused.” Marshall is an adolescent chemical
dependency specialist
and finds the parental Blame Game particularly damaging to families and
their drug abusing children. It makes it very hard for a young person
to
work toward recovery. “Why should they bother to change when
the therapist
has excused them and blamed their parents?” explained Phyllis
York.
Young, Sober,
& Free, Experience, Strength and
Hope is a classic in the recovery field and has sold 250,000
in the
first edition. It has just been updated with one particularly strong
chapter
to parents containing the message: you didn’t cause it, you
can’t control
it, and you can’t cure it. “Even so, this book is
not written for parents,”
Marshall says, “it is written to be used by the person
picking up the drink
or drug, the responsible-able person. Parents can’t not
pickup the drink
or drug, only the person addicted can do that.” The second
edition is being
released by Hazelden May 10. For additional information see
Marshall’s
website “Teenage Addicts Can Recover”
www.day-by-day.org